We often want our children to be independent before they are ready. Instead of rushing then into “independence”, take time to talk to them about everyday events, discuss what they love and are afraid of, delight in conversations about their observation. Here’s how:

MODEL SKILLS THAT TEACH INDEPEDENCE These include brushing their teeth, reading by themselves, putting things away after use, and clearing the table after a meal.

GIVE OPPORTUNITIES FOR LOTS OF PRACTICE Children will eventually master the skill they are learning after doing it repeatedly.

PRAISE THEM FOR EACH ACHIEVEMENT Always praise and encourage by saying, “Well Done” or “Let’s Try Again”, even if it is not up to your expected standard. For example, if your child wishes to help you clear the dustpan, thank him for the effort even though there will be dust spilled along the way.

Do not hurry them. Allow children the time they need to perform the task. For example, while preparing for a picnic, give them enough time to dress and groom themselves, put on their shoes, and help pack the food.

AVOID “CORRECTING” Correcting a child’s work sends the message that he has not done well and his efforts are not appreciates. This may discourage him from attempting to do things on his own. Instead, guide him to correct the mistake on his own. For example, after he has put on his socks, don’t adjust it if he has not worn them properly. Instead, check with the child if he is comfortable after he has put on his shoes and tried walking.

KEEP LEARNING FUN Use chants and rhymes to teach the skills that you want your child to learn. For example, brushing can be fun if mum sings, “Open your mouth, 1, 2, 3, up and down, 3, 2, and 1.”

Dr Melinda Eng
General Manager
The Little Skool-House International